Facing your fears

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about change and the fears that come up when faced with any sort of change. What does it take to face our fears head on? To stop allowing them to win, keeping us stuck in the same unfulfilling job, unsatisfying relationship, and stopping us from living a life we dream of?

I’ve learned that if I want to live a different kind of life, then I must step out of my comfort zone, I must face my fears head on. This usually brings on A LOT of resistance within myself, and I find that I look for any excuse to stay the same, to stay safe – even though it doesn’t make me happy. I’ve learned that this fear never goes away, and if I waited for it to go, things would never change.

You see our ego likes to keep us safe. It’s not that our ego wants us to live a boring life – it just wants us safe. And to some people, working the same unhappy job is safe. Staying in the same unhappy relationship for years or doing the same boring routines day in and day out may not be fulfilling, but it’s safe. And before we know it, years have passed us by and we’re safe…… but are we happy?

comfort zone

The only way to move forward and chase your dreams is to get started somewhere. Anywhere. It’s not going to be perfect. But guess what, perfect doesn’t exist, and all it does is holds you back from moving forward, from making change. What are you putting off starting today because you’re worried about how you may look, what others might think? What if I told you that those people are so consumed in their own lives, that they don’t actually care. You have something great within you and it’s waiting for you to recognize it. Start it now, do it now!

- Laura

Patience - Trust the journey

Laura LaRocque

You know how sometimes you really plan for and wish for something specific to happen – but then life has other plans and changes need to be made? If you’re anything like me, it happens, and when it does it’s easy to feel let down and discouraged.

Over the last few years I’ve put a lot of effort into my own personal development and with that comes the task of learning to trust, have faith and be patient with life. At times, it has felt like a lost cause, but the more I am able to trust that everything is working out exactly as it’s meant to for this moment, the more I enjoy living in each moment. Sometimes the Universe has different plans for us, but having faith and patience proves that we always eventually get what we’re after, in one form or another.

Coast

Just over 4 years ago, Michael and I were watching a tv program from our living room back in Canada where the contestants had won a trip to Ireland (ever since I had watched the movie PS I LOVE YOU with Gerard Butler – I knew I had to go to Ireland one day.) So that night we made a pact that we would spend our 5th Wedding Anniversary touring around Ireland – driving down cobble stone streets, lush valleys along the coast and admiring so many cute sheep. We really had no idea how we’d make it work – we just decided that we would.

So two years ago when we moved over to the UK I realized that our goal of spending our 5th wedding anniversary driving around the coast of Ireland was within reach. I could literally taste it - Ireland is a quick short flight from London so it was possible – our dream was getting closer to reality.

Throughout the next year, I priced out locations, car rentals, and flights and had it all figured out. I even booked us holidays from work. But then plans changed. Turned out we ended up giving notice at our first flat we had rented and would need to move the weekend we planned to be in Ireland. The extra money we had saved for our anniversary weekend away was now paid towards our deposit on our new place and we would need to spend that weekend packing and moving our things.

I was definitely disappointed. I looked forward to that trip for a long time. And I was especially excited that a goal we had set was conspiring to take place. But truth be told, throughout our first year in London – between Michael and I doing lots of work on ourselves and on our relationship – I then truly, deep down realized that we were going to have many years to celebrate our anniversary in Ireland in the future.

Sheep

What I realized was more important in that moment, was that we got moved to a location that served us better, to our ideal flat that we have loved so dearly over the past year and made many great memories in (we still took the afternoon of unpacking off and went and got new tattoos to celebrate our 5 years of marriage together!)

And you want to hear the cool part now? One year later, as we are on route back home to Canada, we find ourselves on our 6th Wedding Anniversary spending a few days driving up and down coastal dirt roads with beautiful waterfalls and epic views, and sheep…. can’t forget all the cute adorable baby sheep along the road, and even having to stop at times to let them cross. Yet we aren’t in Ireland. The Universe has led us to Iceland. But it doesn’t matter – because we had just decided to live in the moment and enjoy each other – and had trust that one day we would celebrate our anniversary like we imagined. Who knew it would happen so quick.

Trust in your life. Know that when things aren’t going exactly as planned, the Universe is just making room for something greater to come in. You deserve to have all your dreams and wishes come true – just have faith, trust and most importantly be patient.

Love Laura 

My 5 Steps On Learning To Surf

partner surfing

Last year after some deep meditation and visions. I've wanted to surf! Didn't know how I would do this, but knew it needed to be done.

Step 1 - Learn To Swim
As a grown man I had to fight my ego, swallow my pride & take swimming lessons. It's a skill I just never learned as a kid. But I love the water, weather it's chilling out in a boat with friends, going kayaking with Laura or just sitting and watching a still river or waves crashing in the ocean. Even now with our home I made sure we had a river view in London.

Step 2 - Find A Surf School
Like everything in our life lately - people and things cross paths with us at just the right time. With a Airbnb 5 mins from the beach in Porto we had a great location, an easy walk up 1 street and we were at the beach. At the end of that walk was a surf school just as the beach started. A quick talk with Markos and I was signed up for the next day 11am.

Step 3 - Get In The Water
Show up 10 mins early get changed and wet suit on. Pick up our board and off to the water. After a quick warm up and some tips on the beach, in we went. Just like the swim lessons I had to fight my ego, in my head I could do this already no problem. But after the 5th failed attempt at standing up I realized it looked a lot easier than it is. There comes a point where I need to become vulnerable and surrender to the process.

Step 4 - Stand Up
Numerous attempts and crash falls later I finally found success. Although short lived, I now knew what it felt like to ride a wave, and I was instantly hooked!! I was telling Laura it's just like golf, once you know what a perfect shot feels like you spend the rest of the time chasing it. Which seems easy since you did it once you must be able to do it again but proves to be quite frustrating at the beginning.

Step 5 - Keep Practicing
I wrote this sitting in the sun after the first session but already have my next session booked for tomorrow at the same time. After reflecting back on what happened I'm even more excited to keep working and improving.

Although short lived my wave riding experience can't be described with words. The freedom I felt was magical & I can't wait to get back at it tomorrow.

With all that being said I'm so glad that I put my ego aside and didn't listen to all the negative self talk. Which is no easy thing to do, but with the right tools and following a process I did it. Now I get to reap the rewards.

Surfs up Dude!!

- Michael