2 choices - Love or Fear


4 years ago I decided to get the word “Love” tattooed on my forearm. And of course I then got the question many times as to why I would get that tattoo and why so visible and big on my forearm. 

I had been about a year into doing lots of reading and learning on conscious thought and how the thoughts I think determined my actions and my reality. At the time I realized that I needed all the help I could get so I decided why not have the message front and center. And I’ve never regretted it since.

In my life, I feel like I always have 2 options to choose from at any given moment, those being LOVE or the alternative FEAR. I realized that everything I did in life could come from either of those, and at that time of my life most of my thoughts, decisions and actions were coming from a place of fear.  And I knew that whichever one I chose to feed, would be the one to have the biggest impact on my life.

I decided I could always choose love in any situation. I could choose love in how I treated my body, through choosing to move and exercise and fuel my body with healthy nourishing food and clean water. Through spending time in nature, doing things for myself that make me feel loved. Through choosing to spend time with people who uplifted me and loved me for who I am.

I knew I could also choose love when portraying myself in the world, through the ways I chose to be present when around others and truly listen. Through choosing to smile at strangers, doing random acts of kindness and giving compliments.

Facing my fears and uncomfortable experiences also became easier when I decided to choose love. Focusing on doing my best and bringing my best intention with me helped me feel more confident and comfortable in my decisions.

How many times have I failed and reacted with or chose fear instead of Love? Even with a big reminder on my forearm? MANY TIMES. Like too many times to count. I don’t believe that fear ever goes away, nor do I think it should. Fear is around to keep me safe, to let me know that I am no longer in my comfort zone, which is where growth and all the good stuff happens.

Part of choosing love, I believe, is being gentle and forgiving, especially to myself in the times when I didn’t choose to respond and act out of love. I am only human and can do better as I know better. And life's a journey of ebbs and flows. Good times and bad times and mediocre times. Love to me is learning to enjoy and be ok with decisions that I’ve made in each of those times.

What areas in your life are you choosing love? Where do you want to choose love more often?  And most importantly remember to be gentle and easy on yourself, for we’re all learning to love a little more everyday. 

- Laura