Michael LaRocque

Do you choose Love or Fear?

I used to fear not being successful or not having enough money or toys. Not living up to my friends or family expectations. Needing to keep up with the Jones'.

Now I fear not living up to MY own expectations or what I know is possible for myself. It really does scare me to think I can not become what I visualize daily or what I talk about with my daily and nightly affirmations. I fear not being the father or husband that I know I'm capable of being.

With so many different ideas and expectations about how we should live our lives from outside sources, it's hard to hear and trust our inner voice. I say this a lot now a days "that inner voice is the only one that goes to bed with me every night" I might sleep beside my wife but that inner voice is the one talking while I fall asleep.

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It's up to us whether we are having celebrations or a fight with that inner voice each night, it's easy to do what people or society expect us to do. What's hard is listening to our selves and our inner voice. Really doing what makes us happy or proud.

I'm not some weak in the knees kid or a person with no life experience. You name it, I've been there. With this experience I now know that you have to be true to yourself no matter what!! Easy to say, hard to do.

With new tools and a new mind set I've been able to help keep the outside forces at bay. Not to say that they don't sneak in from time to time, it's all a matter of learning how to handle situations.

Whether it be affirmations, gratitude, setting goals, working out, writing, reading, getting out of my comfort zone by trying new things or doing things that I know scare me. These tools have become invaluable to my personal success and continued work in my relationship.

Fear has become something that I know is there but can't make decisions based around it or nothing will get done. No fun story, adventure or positive life changes ever came from making a decision based from fear.

When faced with a decision you can choose Love or Fear - always choose love! There's such a huge world out there for us, with endless possibilities. Don't let fear block those for you.

-Michael

7 emotions I felt when I found out I was going to be a dad!

There are so many emotions that come up when you see the positive pregnancy test! These are the top 7 of the many that popped up for me. 

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1. I'm so proud of Laura for being strong and healthy. I know with all my heart she will be a great mom. I couldn't have asked for a better partner than Laura. 

2. I'm glad we have got ourselves taken care of, I mean it's always a work in progress but I'm glad we waited until now and have lived the adventures that we have. We have so many lessons and stories to teach our kids.

3. Like everything involving Laura, I wish my own father was around to see the things we are doing. And to know that he did a great job!!! I know he would have loved Laura.

4. Excited!! We are going to be awesome parents. Being through all the things I've done in my life. Some good, some bad, I know I'll be understanding to every situation.

5. A bit scared because I no longer have the high paying, high security job I once had. But pursuing my dreams and not living in regret is what I feel is more important to teach my kids. 

6. Grateful that we'll get to raise a child, there are so many people out there that don't get this opportunity. To help instill the values and morals that we've picked up is extremely exciting.   

7. Being there for someone and them knowing that no matter what they'll always be loved. I've been through a lot in my life and it wasn't all positive. Being able to relate to our child when they're in a tough situation will be a strong skill. And our kids always know that no matter what they can tell me what's up and I'll help them, not get mad or pass judgment. 

I know it's going to be a hard, challenging and a life changing experience having children. I feel the best I ever have with life and our situation. Being able to teach our kids that life has many different paths you can go down, and it doesn't always have to be the most traveled path that's right for you. 

If you are a parent what's one emotion that you never seen coming? Or if you don't have kids what's one thing that you're glad your parents taught or showed you about life?

- Michael

What I would tell my 20 year old self + a special announcement at the end!

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Have you ever had an idea and put it off for someday in the future? Like an idea to travel somewhere, to learn a new hobby, to apply for a new job, to go back to school, to start that business that’s always on your mind, to take a chance and just put everything you own in storage and start fresh somewhere new?

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about time. Time passes by no matter what. It’s the only commodity in our life that we can never get back. And yet we seem to spend time like it will never run out. Just assuming that we will wake up tomorrow and get to do what we didn’t get done today. We put off those ideas that come to us for a day, a week, a year and soon we find ourselves thinking it’s too late. We missed our chance, now we’re too old, we have too many responsibilities, we have children, we have mortgages, we have careers.

It’s been 3 weeks now since Michael and I have been back to Canada and we’ve been really enjoying this time we have to spend time with family and visiting friends. As we drive around the city we lived in for 10 years before we left, and our small hometowns in Saskatchewan, we’ve had many conversations around the time that has passed. Time changes everything, and yet nothing changes at all.

We talk about where we would be now if we hadn’t left. What life would be like. We talk about how 3 years ago we never would have imagined that we, just small town people, would have lived in London for 2 years. Making friends from all around the world and traveling around European countries. In our minds, that was only experiences for the lucky few, or more realistically for us, that was stuff that we only seen in movies.

I’ve been thinking about how in my early 20’s I had ideas to travel, to go back to university and how I put them off because I thought I was too old. (I was too old in my early 20’s, crazy right?) I thought I needed to just work at the career I chose even if I wasn’t that happy, so that I could get married, buy a house with my husband and then do my lifelong dream job of being a mom.

Now when I look back I think wow – I thought I was too old for opportunity when I was in my 20’s.  How many of us feel that way? That we must work in the same field for 30 years, that we must live in the same town our whole life, that we missed our opportunity?

What would I tell my 20 year old self? To take a chance. To go travel, to go back to school. To fail, to try new things, to get out of my comfort zone. Because that is where all the growth and great things happen. And time is going to pass the same way, quit wasting it and acting like it’ll last forever.

As Wayne Dyer says – “Don’t die with your music still in you.”

- Laura

PS. If you didn’t already see our exciting news on our Instagram or Facebook – LaRocque Life is expanding! We are welcoming our new boss – Baby LaRocque – December 2016. We are very excited about the new direction and adventure that lies ahead for us and as always appreciate your love and support!

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