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Scoping out our new hood

Laura Vancouver

3 years ago we thought Vancouver was too far away to live in, let alone visit (and visiting Europe was completely out of the question.)

But then, we basically hit rock bottom in our relationship. We had the beautiful wedding, careers and we were planning to start a family - but something was missing. We blamed each other for our own unhappiness, partied and drank often and then blamed each other again.

When we decided we must not be a good match for each other (after more than 9 years together) and decided to part ways.... we gave up the expectations of the other person making us each happy, we started to prep ourselves for single life.

We started focusing on creating our own inner happiness and stopped relying on receiving outer acceptance.

And then something magical happened (sounds corny) but we totally fell back in love with each other.

We remembered why we were attracted to each other in the first place, before we conformed to what we thought what expected of us.

And then we said f*ck it, why are we putting off what lights us up, what scares us.... putting off experiencing and exploring the world now?

So we made a decision. We didn't just go VISIT Europe. We put everything we owned in storage, did everything that almost 30yr olds aren't "supposed" to do and MOVED to England for 2 years.

We set up a new life, we toured through Europe. Then we came back to Canada and skipped the comfort zone of our home city and continued our journey to Vancouver to start new. To explore and to grow.

Has the last few years been all roses and butterflies? Of course not, but it was worth it.

Do we tell you this to impress you? Of course not.

Our only hope is to spark something within you, to stop putting off your dreams for "someday" in the future. Or waiting until your relationship has failed before you decide to take charge of your own happiness.

Life doesn't have to be about pain and struggle, you're allowed to follow your heart and have fun along the way.

- Laura

 

2 choices - Love or Fear

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4 years ago I decided to get the word “Love” tattooed on my forearm. And of course I then got the question many times as to why I would get that tattoo and why so visible and big on my forearm. 

I had been about a year into doing lots of reading and learning on conscious thought and how the thoughts I think determined my actions and my reality. At the time I realized that I needed all the help I could get so I decided why not have the message front and center. And I’ve never regretted it since.

In my life, I feel like I always have 2 options to choose from at any given moment, those being LOVE or the alternative FEAR. I realized that everything I did in life could come from either of those, and at that time of my life most of my thoughts, decisions and actions were coming from a place of fear.  And I knew that whichever one I chose to feed, would be the one to have the biggest impact on my life.

I decided I could always choose love in any situation. I could choose love in how I treated my body, through choosing to move and exercise and fuel my body with healthy nourishing food and clean water. Through spending time in nature, doing things for myself that make me feel loved. Through choosing to spend time with people who uplifted me and loved me for who I am.

I knew I could also choose love when portraying myself in the world, through the ways I chose to be present when around others and truly listen. Through choosing to smile at strangers, doing random acts of kindness and giving compliments.

Facing my fears and uncomfortable experiences also became easier when I decided to choose love. Focusing on doing my best and bringing my best intention with me helped me feel more confident and comfortable in my decisions.

How many times have I failed and reacted with or chose fear instead of Love? Even with a big reminder on my forearm? MANY TIMES. Like too many times to count. I don’t believe that fear ever goes away, nor do I think it should. Fear is around to keep me safe, to let me know that I am no longer in my comfort zone, which is where growth and all the good stuff happens.

Part of choosing love, I believe, is being gentle and forgiving, especially to myself in the times when I didn’t choose to respond and act out of love. I am only human and can do better as I know better. And life's a journey of ebbs and flows. Good times and bad times and mediocre times. Love to me is learning to enjoy and be ok with decisions that I’ve made in each of those times.

What areas in your life are you choosing love? Where do you want to choose love more often?  And most importantly remember to be gentle and easy on yourself, for we’re all learning to love a little more everyday. 

- Laura