Travel

What I would tell my 20 year old self + a special announcement at the end!

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Have you ever had an idea and put it off for someday in the future? Like an idea to travel somewhere, to learn a new hobby, to apply for a new job, to go back to school, to start that business that’s always on your mind, to take a chance and just put everything you own in storage and start fresh somewhere new?

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about time. Time passes by no matter what. It’s the only commodity in our life that we can never get back. And yet we seem to spend time like it will never run out. Just assuming that we will wake up tomorrow and get to do what we didn’t get done today. We put off those ideas that come to us for a day, a week, a year and soon we find ourselves thinking it’s too late. We missed our chance, now we’re too old, we have too many responsibilities, we have children, we have mortgages, we have careers.

It’s been 3 weeks now since Michael and I have been back to Canada and we’ve been really enjoying this time we have to spend time with family and visiting friends. As we drive around the city we lived in for 10 years before we left, and our small hometowns in Saskatchewan, we’ve had many conversations around the time that has passed. Time changes everything, and yet nothing changes at all.

We talk about where we would be now if we hadn’t left. What life would be like. We talk about how 3 years ago we never would have imagined that we, just small town people, would have lived in London for 2 years. Making friends from all around the world and traveling around European countries. In our minds, that was only experiences for the lucky few, or more realistically for us, that was stuff that we only seen in movies.

I’ve been thinking about how in my early 20’s I had ideas to travel, to go back to university and how I put them off because I thought I was too old. (I was too old in my early 20’s, crazy right?) I thought I needed to just work at the career I chose even if I wasn’t that happy, so that I could get married, buy a house with my husband and then do my lifelong dream job of being a mom.

Now when I look back I think wow – I thought I was too old for opportunity when I was in my 20’s.  How many of us feel that way? That we must work in the same field for 30 years, that we must live in the same town our whole life, that we missed our opportunity?

What would I tell my 20 year old self? To take a chance. To go travel, to go back to school. To fail, to try new things, to get out of my comfort zone. Because that is where all the growth and great things happen. And time is going to pass the same way, quit wasting it and acting like it’ll last forever.

As Wayne Dyer says – “Don’t die with your music still in you.”

- Laura

PS. If you didn’t already see our exciting news on our Instagram or Facebook – LaRocque Life is expanding! We are welcoming our new boss – Baby LaRocque – December 2016. We are very excited about the new direction and adventure that lies ahead for us and as always appreciate your love and support!

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Are you looking for some more adventure in your relationship?

Travel has become way more of an adventure for Laura and I over the past couple years. Rather than our typical hotel stays, recommended tourist restaurants and visiting the main crowded beaches - we have discovered and taken full advantage of staying off the main grid and exploring areas more as locals.

We’ve discovered so much more to see and experience. Everything from a long river boat stay in Cambridge UK, to a yurt in Amsterdam, our own cabin on the coast of Iceland,  to a town house with a brand new baby (I mean days old) with their traditional Chinese grandparents there to look after her. It's been crazy, but fun!!

I’m not sharing this to impress you, but only to highlight that fact that there is so much to see and do all around us. Adventuring with your partner, discovering new places, sharing new experiences, getting lost together, trying new foods and watching the look on your partner's face when you randomly stumble upon an amazing view - all can be reminders of when you first started dating and great ways to keep your love alive.

I’m not saying that you have to always do something crazy, or move to a far away destination -  adventure can be kept simple as well. Getting away for a weekend is often the most practical option for many couples. Pick a destination within a few hours drive from your city and indulge in a quick escape from the daily routine.

Or, how often do you visit the tourist sites in your own city? Hardly ever, right? Find the history, go to museums and parks; research online the possibilities in your city that you don’t know about, as well as the attractions and destinations within about an hour.

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Here’s a few of my own tips, whether you have an afternoon together, a whole day or you can sneak off together for a weekend:

• Stay in a hotel/bed & breakfast or swap houses with friends in another town.

• Step outside your comfort zone and go places you won’t run into anyone you know.

• Turn your phone off! Pretend you’re roaming and forgot to get a travel plan.

• Pack a tent and blankets and just drive. Flip a coin at intersections and see where you end up - when you’re ready, find an area to set up, or spread out your blanket and look at the stars

• Wear versatile clothing or bring items to layer. No stopping at home for quick wardrobe changes!

• Pay attention to details. Look at your surroundings like you’ve never seen them before.

• Think: what would you do if you were showing your out-of-town guests around?

My last and most important tip I can give you: focus on what is right out in front of you. I think a lot of times we are so focused on getting a pic/video to post to Instagram or Facebook or Snapchat and we don't fully enjoy what is going on right in front of our face. Live in the moment and take time away from social media and put all of your focus into the person standing right next to you!

And have fun!! We sometimes get so caught up in our daily lives that we turn into roommates more than lovers. Don't let the little things bother you on this trip, keep it fun, keep it light.


-Michael

 

Patience - Trust the journey

Laura LaRocque

You know how sometimes you really plan for and wish for something specific to happen – but then life has other plans and changes need to be made? If you’re anything like me, it happens, and when it does it’s easy to feel let down and discouraged.

Over the last few years I’ve put a lot of effort into my own personal development and with that comes the task of learning to trust, have faith and be patient with life. At times, it has felt like a lost cause, but the more I am able to trust that everything is working out exactly as it’s meant to for this moment, the more I enjoy living in each moment. Sometimes the Universe has different plans for us, but having faith and patience proves that we always eventually get what we’re after, in one form or another.

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Just over 4 years ago, Michael and I were watching a tv program from our living room back in Canada where the contestants had won a trip to Ireland (ever since I had watched the movie PS I LOVE YOU with Gerard Butler – I knew I had to go to Ireland one day.) So that night we made a pact that we would spend our 5th Wedding Anniversary touring around Ireland – driving down cobble stone streets, lush valleys along the coast and admiring so many cute sheep. We really had no idea how we’d make it work – we just decided that we would.

So two years ago when we moved over to the UK I realized that our goal of spending our 5th wedding anniversary driving around the coast of Ireland was within reach. I could literally taste it - Ireland is a quick short flight from London so it was possible – our dream was getting closer to reality.

Throughout the next year, I priced out locations, car rentals, and flights and had it all figured out. I even booked us holidays from work. But then plans changed. Turned out we ended up giving notice at our first flat we had rented and would need to move the weekend we planned to be in Ireland. The extra money we had saved for our anniversary weekend away was now paid towards our deposit on our new place and we would need to spend that weekend packing and moving our things.

I was definitely disappointed. I looked forward to that trip for a long time. And I was especially excited that a goal we had set was conspiring to take place. But truth be told, throughout our first year in London – between Michael and I doing lots of work on ourselves and on our relationship – I then truly, deep down realized that we were going to have many years to celebrate our anniversary in Ireland in the future.

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What I realized was more important in that moment, was that we got moved to a location that served us better, to our ideal flat that we have loved so dearly over the past year and made many great memories in (we still took the afternoon of unpacking off and went and got new tattoos to celebrate our 5 years of marriage together!)

And you want to hear the cool part now? One year later, as we are on route back home to Canada, we find ourselves on our 6th Wedding Anniversary spending a few days driving up and down coastal dirt roads with beautiful waterfalls and epic views, and sheep…. can’t forget all the cute adorable baby sheep along the road, and even having to stop at times to let them cross. Yet we aren’t in Ireland. The Universe has led us to Iceland. But it doesn’t matter – because we had just decided to live in the moment and enjoy each other – and had trust that one day we would celebrate our anniversary like we imagined. Who knew it would happen so quick.

Trust in your life. Know that when things aren’t going exactly as planned, the Universe is just making room for something greater to come in. You deserve to have all your dreams and wishes come true – just have faith, trust and most importantly be patient.

Love Laura