Do you choose Love or Fear?

I used to fear not being successful or not having enough money or toys. Not living up to my friends or family expectations. Needing to keep up with the Jones'.

Now I fear not living up to MY own expectations or what I know is possible for myself. It really does scare me to think I can not become what I visualize daily or what I talk about with my daily and nightly affirmations. I fear not being the father or husband that I know I'm capable of being.

With so many different ideas and expectations about how we should live our lives from outside sources, it's hard to hear and trust our inner voice. I say this a lot now a days "that inner voice is the only one that goes to bed with me every night" I might sleep beside my wife but that inner voice is the one talking while I fall asleep.


It's up to us whether we are having celebrations or a fight with that inner voice each night, it's easy to do what people or society expect us to do. What's hard is listening to our selves and our inner voice. Really doing what makes us happy or proud.

I'm not some weak in the knees kid or a person with no life experience. You name it, I've been there. With this experience I now know that you have to be true to yourself no matter what!! Easy to say, hard to do.

With new tools and a new mind set I've been able to help keep the outside forces at bay. Not to say that they don't sneak in from time to time, it's all a matter of learning how to handle situations.

Whether it be affirmations, gratitude, setting goals, working out, writing, reading, getting out of my comfort zone by trying new things or doing things that I know scare me. These tools have become invaluable to my personal success and continued work in my relationship.

Fear has become something that I know is there but can't make decisions based around it or nothing will get done. No fun story, adventure or positive life changes ever came from making a decision based from fear.

When faced with a decision you can choose Love or Fear - always choose love! There's such a huge world out there for us, with endless possibilities. Don't let fear block those for you.


Are you looking for some more adventure in your relationship?

Travel has become way more of an adventure for Laura and I over the past couple years. Rather than our typical hotel stays, recommended tourist restaurants and visiting the main crowded beaches - we have discovered and taken full advantage of staying off the main grid and exploring areas more as locals.

We’ve discovered so much more to see and experience. Everything from a long river boat stay in Cambridge UK, to a yurt in Amsterdam, our own cabin on the coast of Iceland,  to a town house with a brand new baby (I mean days old) with their traditional Chinese grandparents there to look after her. It's been crazy, but fun!!

I’m not sharing this to impress you, but only to highlight that fact that there is so much to see and do all around us. Adventuring with your partner, discovering new places, sharing new experiences, getting lost together, trying new foods and watching the look on your partner's face when you randomly stumble upon an amazing view - all can be reminders of when you first started dating and great ways to keep your love alive.

I’m not saying that you have to always do something crazy, or move to a far away destination -  adventure can be kept simple as well. Getting away for a weekend is often the most practical option for many couples. Pick a destination within a few hours drive from your city and indulge in a quick escape from the daily routine.

Or, how often do you visit the tourist sites in your own city? Hardly ever, right? Find the history, go to museums and parks; research online the possibilities in your city that you don’t know about, as well as the attractions and destinations within about an hour.


Here’s a few of my own tips, whether you have an afternoon together, a whole day or you can sneak off together for a weekend:

• Stay in a hotel/bed & breakfast or swap houses with friends in another town.

• Step outside your comfort zone and go places you won’t run into anyone you know.

• Turn your phone off! Pretend you’re roaming and forgot to get a travel plan.

• Pack a tent and blankets and just drive. Flip a coin at intersections and see where you end up - when you’re ready, find an area to set up, or spread out your blanket and look at the stars

• Wear versatile clothing or bring items to layer. No stopping at home for quick wardrobe changes!

• Pay attention to details. Look at your surroundings like you’ve never seen them before.

• Think: what would you do if you were showing your out-of-town guests around?

My last and most important tip I can give you: focus on what is right out in front of you. I think a lot of times we are so focused on getting a pic/video to post to Instagram or Facebook or Snapchat and we don't fully enjoy what is going on right in front of our face. Live in the moment and take time away from social media and put all of your focus into the person standing right next to you!

And have fun!! We sometimes get so caught up in our daily lives that we turn into roommates more than lovers. Don't let the little things bother you on this trip, keep it fun, keep it light.



Patience - Trust the journey

Laura LaRocque

You know how sometimes you really plan for and wish for something specific to happen – but then life has other plans and changes need to be made? If you’re anything like me, it happens, and when it does it’s easy to feel let down and discouraged.

Over the last few years I’ve put a lot of effort into my own personal development and with that comes the task of learning to trust, have faith and be patient with life. At times, it has felt like a lost cause, but the more I am able to trust that everything is working out exactly as it’s meant to for this moment, the more I enjoy living in each moment. Sometimes the Universe has different plans for us, but having faith and patience proves that we always eventually get what we’re after, in one form or another.


Just over 4 years ago, Michael and I were watching a tv program from our living room back in Canada where the contestants had won a trip to Ireland (ever since I had watched the movie PS I LOVE YOU with Gerard Butler – I knew I had to go to Ireland one day.) So that night we made a pact that we would spend our 5th Wedding Anniversary touring around Ireland – driving down cobble stone streets, lush valleys along the coast and admiring so many cute sheep. We really had no idea how we’d make it work – we just decided that we would.

So two years ago when we moved over to the UK I realized that our goal of spending our 5th wedding anniversary driving around the coast of Ireland was within reach. I could literally taste it - Ireland is a quick short flight from London so it was possible – our dream was getting closer to reality.

Throughout the next year, I priced out locations, car rentals, and flights and had it all figured out. I even booked us holidays from work. But then plans changed. Turned out we ended up giving notice at our first flat we had rented and would need to move the weekend we planned to be in Ireland. The extra money we had saved for our anniversary weekend away was now paid towards our deposit on our new place and we would need to spend that weekend packing and moving our things.

I was definitely disappointed. I looked forward to that trip for a long time. And I was especially excited that a goal we had set was conspiring to take place. But truth be told, throughout our first year in London – between Michael and I doing lots of work on ourselves and on our relationship – I then truly, deep down realized that we were going to have many years to celebrate our anniversary in Ireland in the future.


What I realized was more important in that moment, was that we got moved to a location that served us better, to our ideal flat that we have loved so dearly over the past year and made many great memories in (we still took the afternoon of unpacking off and went and got new tattoos to celebrate our 5 years of marriage together!)

And you want to hear the cool part now? One year later, as we are on route back home to Canada, we find ourselves on our 6th Wedding Anniversary spending a few days driving up and down coastal dirt roads with beautiful waterfalls and epic views, and sheep…. can’t forget all the cute adorable baby sheep along the road, and even having to stop at times to let them cross. Yet we aren’t in Ireland. The Universe has led us to Iceland. But it doesn’t matter – because we had just decided to live in the moment and enjoy each other – and had trust that one day we would celebrate our anniversary like we imagined. Who knew it would happen so quick.

Trust in your life. Know that when things aren’t going exactly as planned, the Universe is just making room for something greater to come in. You deserve to have all your dreams and wishes come true – just have faith, trust and most importantly be patient.

Love Laura