Scoping out our new hood

Laura Vancouver

3 years ago we thought Vancouver was too far away to live in, let alone visit (and visiting Europe was completely out of the question.)

But then, we basically hit rock bottom in our relationship. We had the beautiful wedding, careers and we were planning to start a family - but something was missing. We blamed each other for our own unhappiness, partied and drank often and then blamed each other again.

When we decided we must not be a good match for each other (after more than 9 years together) and decided to part ways.... we gave up the expectations of the other person making us each happy, we started to prep ourselves for single life.

We started focusing on creating our own inner happiness and stopped relying on receiving outer acceptance.

And then something magical happened (sounds corny) but we totally fell back in love with each other.

We remembered why we were attracted to each other in the first place, before we conformed to what we thought what expected of us.

And then we said f*ck it, why are we putting off what lights us up, what scares us.... putting off experiencing and exploring the world now?

So we made a decision. We didn't just go VISIT Europe. We put everything we owned in storage, did everything that almost 30yr olds aren't "supposed" to do and MOVED to England for 2 years.

We set up a new life, we toured through Europe. Then we came back to Canada and skipped the comfort zone of our home city and continued our journey to Vancouver to start new. To explore and to grow.

Has the last few years been all roses and butterflies? Of course not, but it was worth it.

Do we tell you this to impress you? Of course not.

Our only hope is to spark something within you, to stop putting off your dreams for "someday" in the future. Or waiting until your relationship has failed before you decide to take charge of your own happiness.

Life doesn't have to be about pain and struggle, you're allowed to follow your heart and have fun along the way.

- Laura

 

How My Life has Changed in 3 years…. And Yours Can Too!

Laura LaRocque

Take 2 seconds right now and think about where you were 3 years ago. Where did you live, where did you work? Were you in a relationship? How did you feel? Who did you hang out with? What were your hobbies?

3 years ago I was sad, lost, frustrated, disappointed. I felt like a failure and had no idea how I let myself get so down in life. I was 27 years old, chose to walk away from my massage therapy business that I had built up over 7 years, was preparing to leave my husband after only 3 years of marriage. I didn’t know what I wanted to do next career wise. I didn’t have any hobbies and I cared too much about what other people thought of me. I knew I wanted a family, but I knew that I didn’t want to bring a baby into my current state of unhappiness and unstable relationship.

At that point my husband Mike and I had been together for 9 years – basically high school sweethearts who got married and followed what we thought was right. We had gone to school, got married, had our careers, and we were planning to start a family one-day. But somewhere in there we lost who we were, why we were doing it and basically fell out of love.

We weren’t fulfilled, we lived for the weekend and we partied a lot. And one day I woke up and realized I didn’t want to live like that anymore. I stopped going out, I tried to control and change Mike, I cried myself to sleep when he would still go out, and I beat myself up over allowing my life to reach this point.

I daydreamed about the future that I wanted – the white picket fence, the beautiful babies and the marriage and relationship where we were best of friends. But in my current reality, that was a far off dream. I finally decided I had suffered enough and made a decision that something had to change, and it had to start with me. I didn’t know where to begin on making changes so I sought out my first coach and started focusing on the one thing I could change in my life – ME.

So why am I sharing this with you? Because I know you can relate in some way. If you’re anything like me, there have been times in your life when you’re not satisfied, when things aren’t going the way you imagined and you feel like you’re failing at life.

Now fast forward 3 years to present time, Mike and I are driving back to Alberta after spending a week in Vancouver in search of a place to call home for the next year. We’re discussing how just 3 years ago, this journey wasn’t even a possibility in our minds. It was the experiences that happen only to people in the movies.

But over the past 3 years, we have quit our careers, packed up everything we owned, put it in storage, and moved to London England with only a few suitcases and accommodations booked for a week. We traveled through 10 European countries, we supported ourselves financially along the way, and now 2 years later we are back in Canada, with a renewed idea of what our future looks like.

We have spent many hours exploring new territory, exploring ourselves, setting new foundations for our relationship, our marriage, our future family and what our new “normal” looks like.

Now when we think about 3 years into the future, we can’t help but smile because we know first hand, that as long as we keep pushing forward, the possibilities are beyond what we are even capable of imagining right now.

And that’s why I am sharing this with you. Because I want you to know that wherever you are in your life, you don’t have to stay there if you don’t want to. We don’t have special super powers we just made a choice. And you have a choice too. Great things don’t only happen to people in the movies, they CAN and WILL happen for you too. You just have to start somewhere.

- Laura 

What I would tell my 20 year old self + a special announcement at the end!

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Have you ever had an idea and put it off for someday in the future? Like an idea to travel somewhere, to learn a new hobby, to apply for a new job, to go back to school, to start that business that’s always on your mind, to take a chance and just put everything you own in storage and start fresh somewhere new?

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about time. Time passes by no matter what. It’s the only commodity in our life that we can never get back. And yet we seem to spend time like it will never run out. Just assuming that we will wake up tomorrow and get to do what we didn’t get done today. We put off those ideas that come to us for a day, a week, a year and soon we find ourselves thinking it’s too late. We missed our chance, now we’re too old, we have too many responsibilities, we have children, we have mortgages, we have careers.

It’s been 3 weeks now since Michael and I have been back to Canada and we’ve been really enjoying this time we have to spend time with family and visiting friends. As we drive around the city we lived in for 10 years before we left, and our small hometowns in Saskatchewan, we’ve had many conversations around the time that has passed. Time changes everything, and yet nothing changes at all.

We talk about where we would be now if we hadn’t left. What life would be like. We talk about how 3 years ago we never would have imagined that we, just small town people, would have lived in London for 2 years. Making friends from all around the world and traveling around European countries. In our minds, that was only experiences for the lucky few, or more realistically for us, that was stuff that we only seen in movies.

I’ve been thinking about how in my early 20’s I had ideas to travel, to go back to university and how I put them off because I thought I was too old. (I was too old in my early 20’s, crazy right?) I thought I needed to just work at the career I chose even if I wasn’t that happy, so that I could get married, buy a house with my husband and then do my lifelong dream job of being a mom.

Now when I look back I think wow – I thought I was too old for opportunity when I was in my 20’s.  How many of us feel that way? That we must work in the same field for 30 years, that we must live in the same town our whole life, that we missed our opportunity?

What would I tell my 20 year old self? To take a chance. To go travel, to go back to school. To fail, to try new things, to get out of my comfort zone. Because that is where all the growth and great things happen. And time is going to pass the same way, quit wasting it and acting like it’ll last forever.

As Wayne Dyer says – “Don’t die with your music still in you.”

- Laura

PS. If you didn’t already see our exciting news on our Instagram or Facebook – LaRocque Life is expanding! We are welcoming our new boss – Baby LaRocque – December 2016. We are very excited about the new direction and adventure that lies ahead for us and as always appreciate your love and support!

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